TRIGGER WARNING: This episode may be triggering for some, as it talks of relationship abuse. If you are in immediate danger, call your country’s emergency line.

Today, this may be for you, or it may be for helping someone you care about. I want to help shine a light, not to label people casually, but to help us recognise and see patterns in Dark Triad personalities, as they can go hand in hand, share a psychological outline to better understand how they operate in general, and explore how this looks in relationships before outlining a step-by-step way to leave safely. Helplines and resources will be attached in the notes.

What we explore:

• Living with an Abuser

• What the Dark Triad Means

• What It Can Look Like in Relationships

• Warning Signs

• Triangulation

• On a Therapist Note

• SAFE EXIT PLAN:

• -Rebuild Yourself

• -Make a Private, Safe Plan

• -Build a Support Network

• -Gather Documents

• -Secure Money

• -Plan Where You Will Go

• -Choose the Right Time

• -If Children Are Involved

• Be Compassionate with Yourself

• Legal Protection (in Australia)

• Money & Financial Aid

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The modern world and the technology we've created is both reshaping and destroying our lives, especially our relationships. How we relate to ourselves and to our beloved, and humanity as a collective. Topics: how dopamine isn't a 'pleasure chemical', why people are missing what really matters, the change of our salience landscape, relationship crisis, living in a spiritually bankrupt culture, what if you love your AI partner, our crisis of connection, the psychology of storytelling, the human need for connection and depth, the power of listening, finding our "Invincible Summer".

If you are in a relationship dynamic with emotional or psychological manipulation, bullying or gas lighting, you probably don't know what exactly is going on and why. 'Knowing' can be half the battle. First step: know what it is. The major general types or reasons: Dominance, Righteousness, Negative Emotion, Lack of Understanding, Abuse / Trauma Patterns, Need for Drama / Highly Neurotic. Second step: know how to resolve it, with scenarios for each major type and how to work with them.

Your happiness, healing and spiritual growth do not depend on anyone else, despite your personality telling you otherwise. Topics: how your personality is running and ruining your life, the hunt for a quick fix, shifting control from the personality, aligning the key 5 aspects of Self, why you are not your experiences, the clash of personalities in relationship, the power of Harmony, the Pause and the Circuit Breakers, learning how to Be and not resist, reaching your Always Place. Resources: 28 Day Deeper Intimacy & Conscious Love course, Emotional Processing.

A very personal story from Elise (not professional medical guidance). Topics: Elise's personal crisis and journey, differentiating trauma from patterns, working with our 'patterning', psychological safety, when our world breaks, the human need for trust, the load of self-sufficiency, threat systems and how to relax them, knowing your psychological disposition, the opportunity in chaos and trauma. Eastern wisdom: flowing adaptability, the paradox of suffering, transcendence. Roman Stoicism: inner strength, what you can and can't control, reframing, resilience, acceptance, letting go of rigidity, maintaining inner peace.

Imagine living free of all emotional turmoil, pain, anger, jealousy and hurt from your childhood till now. It is possible. Most people live in an internal prison of the mind and emotions. 'Emotional Processing' is learning how to permanently drop the emotional/mental baggage of your life, using eastern and western psychological practices. Includes the Basic 9 Step Approach: Sit & Relax, Breathe, Awareness & Acknowledgment, Accept the Experience, Direct Dialogue, Finding the Root Feeling, Feel, Witness, Transcending Emotions, plus Shift in Consciousness.

A temporary time of sacrifice, a breaking open and a re-birthing, particularly for the mother, but for all parents a new world of wonderment and undeniable chaos. Topics: limits of the body, the state of your '3 Vehicles', assessing where you are physically, emotionally, mentally, what support looks like, loss of identity, where to get emotional, mental and physical top ups, recharging YOU, sacrifice vs personal time, navigating crisis, seeing the partner as 'not (good) enough', no shame in asking for help, guidance for mamas and dadas.

We are creatures of habit and comfort, programmed to seek the fast, cheap and easy. What if we instead learn The Art of Detachment from thoughts, emotions and behaviours that limit us? Topics: detachment as the great experiment, modern Western psychology and Ageless Eastern teachings of detachment, wisdom of philosophies and faiths (Baha'i, Buddhism including Zen, Christianity, Hinduism, Jainism, Kabbalah, Taoism), letting go and the practice of Firm But Loving, the Path of Least Resistance, the internal battle Soul vs Personality, your True Nature.

If we walk the Path, we walk it to be channels of light for others, harmonising the Way of The Heart with The Way of the Mind, the Mystical with the Esoteric. Topics: what is mysticism, famous mystics, the Way of the Heart, poetry by Hadewijch, the Way of the Mind, modern and practical mystics, well known esotericists, shifting from modern mystic to awakening the mind, esoteric readings, semantics and symbolism, study, mind meditation, training the mind, wisdom quotes from Bailey and Blavatsky.